Now that I've opened myself up to questions, you can submit a petition by emailing marylikethesaint@gmail.com. Ask often. And remember, all petitions are answered, just not always the way we want them to be. Blessings.
Wednesday, June 21, 2006
How to Petition Mary
Now that I've opened myself up to questions, you can submit a petition by emailing marylikethesaint@gmail.com. Ask often. And remember, all petitions are answered, just not always the way we want them to be. Blessings.
Petitions to Mary
Before I accept the first petition, I must make a confession. I really started this blog hoping it would become an advice column. Answering others' questions prompts me to write, and helps keep me from making this blog uncomfortably personal. Thank you, readers, for saving me from inappropriate sharing! And now, without further ado, lets get to a Petition to Mary.
Dear Mary Like The Saint,
I am going to be married in 10 months (and 9 days) and have a dilemma that I think you can help me with. My fiance and I have been together for four years, so we've seen the best and the worst of each other. I've heard of women "pretending" to be a virgin before their marriageto make their first night together special, but this seems silly. How do I make that "spark" happen on the honeymoon? Please lend your"like a virgin" wisdom to me!
Sincerely,
Tainted in Tucson
Dear Petitioner,
Let me begin by insisting that I've made no pretense of chastity; that is the inestimable Madonna. One need not be virginal to be like a saint.
And that begins to answer your inquiry. I think the poor souls who feel it necessary to take a sex hiatus shortly before a wedding so they can fake some kind of purity they no longer possess are doing themselves and their partners a great disservice. They are buying into an antiquated notion that the only gift a woman brings to a marriage is her maidenhead. You have a lot more to offer your future husband than access to sex. He can probably easily get that elsewhere, anyway. Not to worry you.
However, a period of sexual separation before your wedding can serve a valuable purpose. Time apart gives you a chance for reflection, and a space to be with just yourself. This effort on yourself will allow you to have more to give to your partner when you do come together. You'll have something to discover about each other, which is what happened to you while you were apart. In addition to this, reuniting sexually is a way to consciously recommit to one another, which you will be doing for the rest of your life together.
Have a great honeymoon, whether you decide to have a celibate period beforehand or not!
Blessings,
Mary
Dear Mary Like The Saint,
I am going to be married in 10 months (and 9 days) and have a dilemma that I think you can help me with. My fiance and I have been together for four years, so we've seen the best and the worst of each other. I've heard of women "pretending" to be a virgin before their marriageto make their first night together special, but this seems silly. How do I make that "spark" happen on the honeymoon? Please lend your"like a virgin" wisdom to me!
Sincerely,
Tainted in Tucson
Dear Petitioner,
Let me begin by insisting that I've made no pretense of chastity; that is the inestimable Madonna. One need not be virginal to be like a saint.
And that begins to answer your inquiry. I think the poor souls who feel it necessary to take a sex hiatus shortly before a wedding so they can fake some kind of purity they no longer possess are doing themselves and their partners a great disservice. They are buying into an antiquated notion that the only gift a woman brings to a marriage is her maidenhead. You have a lot more to offer your future husband than access to sex. He can probably easily get that elsewhere, anyway. Not to worry you.
However, a period of sexual separation before your wedding can serve a valuable purpose. Time apart gives you a chance for reflection, and a space to be with just yourself. This effort on yourself will allow you to have more to give to your partner when you do come together. You'll have something to discover about each other, which is what happened to you while you were apart. In addition to this, reuniting sexually is a way to consciously recommit to one another, which you will be doing for the rest of your life together.
Have a great honeymoon, whether you decide to have a celibate period beforehand or not!
Blessings,
Mary
Tuesday, June 06, 2006
And We Went Dancing
Sweetheart and I had dancing lessons this evening. We're just doing it on a lark as a fun couple thing, and I'm enjoying it. We're surprisingly not terrible at it thus far. Of course, the dance people are now laying on the hard sell, trying to get us to commit for a year.
I find the selling process so frustrating. I'm interested in the lessons, otherwise I wouldn't show up. But at the dance studio, they won't come straight out and tell you how much a lesson costs. They have to set up your entire "dancing plan," and you pay a monthly amount with which you're "comfortable." What the heck does that mean? Meanwhile, they're asking personal questions trying to establish rapport, which doesn't work, and trying to talk up how important it is to know how to dance as a life skill, which also falls flat for me. I want to dance; let's just have a straightforward transaction, like buying a gallon of milk. I really think they'd get farther that way.
At any rate, I like the dancing, particularly the tango. Sweetheart is an aggressive lead, especially for that, which is appropriate. I need the aggressive lead to keep me in check. In some ways dancing is a zen exercise for a woman; I have to let go of thinking of where I want to go and what moves I want to do and just follow my partner. It's a good practice for me. Now, why don't the dance people try to sell the lessons as spiritual practice? That's a great angle!
I find the selling process so frustrating. I'm interested in the lessons, otherwise I wouldn't show up. But at the dance studio, they won't come straight out and tell you how much a lesson costs. They have to set up your entire "dancing plan," and you pay a monthly amount with which you're "comfortable." What the heck does that mean? Meanwhile, they're asking personal questions trying to establish rapport, which doesn't work, and trying to talk up how important it is to know how to dance as a life skill, which also falls flat for me. I want to dance; let's just have a straightforward transaction, like buying a gallon of milk. I really think they'd get farther that way.
At any rate, I like the dancing, particularly the tango. Sweetheart is an aggressive lead, especially for that, which is appropriate. I need the aggressive lead to keep me in check. In some ways dancing is a zen exercise for a woman; I have to let go of thinking of where I want to go and what moves I want to do and just follow my partner. It's a good practice for me. Now, why don't the dance people try to sell the lessons as spiritual practice? That's a great angle!
Saturday, June 03, 2006
Lesson the First
Apparently, all the cool kids are doing it. Far-flung friends have started blogs to keep everyone up on their comings and goings. I want in, too! I want my own internet address! And now I have one. Woo.
I attempted a blog about a year ago (now erased), but didn't keep it up very well. Because hope springs eternal, I'm trying again. Hopefully this blog will give me something productive to do to keep me off the streets. Wish me luck. And hi!
I attempted a blog about a year ago (now erased), but didn't keep it up very well. Because hope springs eternal, I'm trying again. Hopefully this blog will give me something productive to do to keep me off the streets. Wish me luck. And hi!
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